Yes, when I was faced with the challenge of writing from Teyla's perspective in my MM fic, I ended up having a greater respect for her character, so that now when I watch the show, I feel less detached from her, more like I know where she's coming from.

It's just weird to me that that doesn't just come naturally, ya know? And shouldn't it? My mom was emotionally unavailable, my dad a workaholic, blah blah blah, but I feel like there should be a part of me that *enjoys* being a woman and like I really don't know how to access that.

If that makes any sense! :-\